We are drawn by the irresistible pull of love and connection, yet we also long for inner peace and stillness. These apparent opposites seem irreconcilable—until we realize that our longing for intimate bonds and spiritual liberation emanates from the same sacred impulse. Pursuing a spiritual path while embracing our humanity moves us beyond our stuck places toward rich relationships and intimacy with all things.
In this innovative, practical book, John Amodeo shows how emotionally nourishing relationships and spiritual development are two sides of the same coin of awakening. He suggests that the Buddha’s teaching about the root of suffering is often misunderstood. It is not desire and attachment that cause suffering; desire is the fire that springs from the basic life force.
Drawing upon the science of attachment theory, Amodeo illuminates how suffering spreads when we’re disconnected from ourselves and others—and is fueled by clinging to an array of habits and beliefs that divert us from a deeper intimacy with life.
In a warm, conversational tone, Amodeo presents relationships as the ultimate spiritual practice. We move toward emotional and spiritual maturity as we mindfully uncover, welcome, and convey our deepest feelings and tender longings. Guiding us on this healing and transformative journey is this book’s purpose. By bringing loving-kindness to wha,
John Amodeo. PhD, MFT (MFC14453), holds graduate degrees in both Clinical and Transpersonal Psychology has been a licensed marriage and family therapist for 39 years in the San Francisco Bay Area, with offices in San Rafael and the Sebastopol area. He is the author of four books and was a writer and contributing editor for YogaJournal for ten years. He is a Certified Focusing Trainerand Certified Focusing-Oriented Therapist. He has conducted workshops worldwide on love, intimacy, and couples therapy, lectured internationally at universities, and has been featured on national television and radio programs that include CNN, Donahue, and New Dimensions Radio. He has led workshops at centers such as Esalen Institute, The Omega Institute, and The New York Open Center, and has been an adjunct faculty member of Meridian University. He has written blogs for the Huffington Post, currently writes for Psych Central, and is a popular blogger forPsychology Today,with over 2 million total views of his articles. He resides in Sonoma County, California.