The Authentic Heart: An Eightfold Path to Midlife Love
As the years pass, you may feel that something you've always longed for has never happened. Frustrated, you may give up on love or cling to unrealistic images of romantic love, hoping that another person will furnish happiness. You may experience a growing sense of depression, anxiety, or cynicism. But as psychotherapist and relationship expert Dr. John Amodeo explains, authentic love takes time and maturity. As you learn from your life experience, you hold the extraordinary potential of becoming more fully awake and alive in your relationships than ever before. In this highly acclaimed book, Dr. Amodeo helps you discover the difference between naive, romantic love and mature love. You'll learn how to overcome the social and psychological obstacles that have kept you from developing satisfying relationships. And you'll learn eight enriching steps that release your authentic self for the fullness of genuine connection. Whether you're seeking true love for the first time or wish to deepen the joy and meaning in your current relationship, The Authentic Heart guides you along the path to a more vibrant partnership and richer friendships.
John Amodeo, Ph.D. John Wiley & Sons ($16.95)
Praise for The Authentic Heart
The Authentic Heart is a groundbreaking, insightful, warmly written book that I highly recommend to anyone wanting more loving, joyful relationships. John Amodeo is a thoughtful and heartfelt writer, who addresses with great clarity, wisdom, and practicality, the key steps that are necessary for building authentic, mature, loving connections - not only with others, but also with oneself." --John Bradshaw, New York Times best-selling author of Healing the Shame that Binds You
"Just what millions want to know--not only how to make love last, but how to make lasting love new again and again. This warm-hearted and clear-headed book is full of practical wisdom." -- Gay Hendricks, Ph.D. and Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., authors of the best-selling book, Conscious Loving
"The Authentic Heart offers practical, wise, and compassionate guidance for midlife love." --Jack Kornfield, best-selling author of A Path with Heart
"The Authentic Heart makes a significant contribution to the literature on relationships." --Patricia Evans, author of The Verbally Abusive Relationship
"The Authentic Heart is a fresh commentary on mature and ripened love. It brings together a wealth of knowledge, insight, and clinical experience to show that the capacity for love is not diminished by age but can be enhanced by it as we grow in wisdom. This book is not only for the middle-aged, but for those, young and old, who want to enrich their intimate relationships." --Peter A. Levine, Ph.D., best-selling author of Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma
"By midlife, many people are discouraged and don't know how to begin or how to begin again. It is wonderful how John Amodeo has brought his heart to sharing so specifically and lovingly the path to this very special stage of love. The Authentic Heart is a gift of hope and encouragement." --Daphne Rose Kingma, author of The Future of Love
"John Amodeo is a master guide for the relationship path. His knowledge and love pour through this book on every page. With the aid of this book's grounded wisdom, we can untangle the knots of our own making, and find our way clear in any relationship of significance, no matter how challenging it might be." --Jacquelyn Small, author of Awakening in Time
"If you ever have a thought of wishing you were younger, run, don't walk, to pick up this book. Open to any page and you will find the life affirming wisdom that will allow you to celebrate yourself." --Jordan Paul, Ph.D., co-author of Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?
"The Authentic Heart is a beautifully written, hope-filled celebration of spiritually rich intimacy. If that's what you are seeking, you must read this book." --Judith Sherven, Ph.D. & James Sniechowski, Ph.D., authors of The New Intimacy
"John Amodeo is a brilliant writer. With breathtaking clarity and simplicity, he makes the enduring truths of conscious relationships fully accessible to contemporary readers. His penetrating insights illuminate the path to deep love and intimacy." --William Collinge, Ph.D., author of The American Holistic Health Association Complete Guide to Alternative Medicine
"Full of warmth and wisdom, this book inspires us to let go of the illusions of youth, learn from the lessons life has taught us thus far and begin again with a renewed sense of humility and compassion." --Susan Campbell, Ph.D., author of Getting Real
"John Amodeo is the most thoughtful writer on relationships that I know. I recommend this book to anyone seeking insight and solutions to relationship issues." --Dr. Jim Dreaver, author The Way of Harmony
"If there is ever a Pulitzer Prize for a book about love, The Authentic Heart should win hands down. I have great admiration for John Amodeo's gentle, yet powerful, prose and lively writing style, and am delighted beyond words how often and beautifully he illuminates the significance of risking vulnerability and emotional honesty to achieve emotional intimacy. There are so many good examples and moving wisdom in this book. I thank him for expressing his incredibly wise experiences and insights, and I hope others appreciate the sharing of his gift as much as I do!" --Ronald Brill, author of Emotional Honesty & Self-Acceptance: Education Strategies for Preventing Violence
Love & Betrayal: Broken Trust in Intimate Relationships About Love & Betrayal:
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Dr. John Amodeo explores the many forms betrayal can take, from keeping secrets and negative gossip to breaking promises and sexual infidelity. In the process, Dr. Amodeo offers guidance for healing the wounds of past betrayals, and how to cultivate a climate of love and trust in your current relationships. John Amodeo's compassionate approach suggests taking responsibility for moving forward, rather than getting stuck in blame and rage. He gently guides you toward affirming your worth and moving toward real healing. This is a necessary step toward partnerships and friendships that are rich, mature, and fulfilling.
PRAISE FOR LOVE & BETRAYAL:
"The best work I have seen about the authentic experience of the most difficult aspect of relationships." -- Arnold Mindell, Ph.D., author of Working With the Dreaming Body
"A book of profound insight and wisdom, written not just for those who have been betrayed, but for anyone who wants to build deeper, more trusting relationships." -- Susan Campbell, author of The Couples Journey
"The gift of John Amodeo's book is that it gently invites the reader to participate feelingly, not just intellectually. By experiencing and understanding betrayal from a new and deeper perspective, the reader can access paths of healing and growth that are profound." -- Arnold Katz, Ph.D., University of Washington
"A thoughtful, useful, readable book that sensitively addresses a topic touching all of our lives. This book helps us deal with the pain, loss, and disillusionment of betrayal in a way that can lead to a renewal of ourselves and our relationships." -- Aaron Kipnis, Ph.D., author of Knights Without Armor: A Practical Guide for Men in Quest of Masculine Soul
"John Amodeo addressed the too-long-neglected matter of failed relationships. He looks with the experience of a psychotherapist, researcher, lover, and friend, at the challenges faced by men and women who want to live with more love and less fear. Love & Betrayal fills a real need in the literature of self-help" --Jean Liedloff, author of The Continuum Concept
For those people who have succumbed to romantic ideals about relationships, the reality can be disappointing. Others may find it difficult to express their needs and wants effectively. Being Intimate explores how fulfilling relationships can be created. By knowing our true feelings and needs and communicating these without blame and judgment, we can create a climate for love and intimacy to flourish. Introducing and explaining practical techniques, including a process called Focusing (described in detail), the authors show how we can develop trust with others and transform painful experiences into richly satisfying ones. For those entering new relationships or who seek ways of enriching their current ones, this book will be of immense and lasting value.
PRAISE FOR BEING INTIMATE:
"This book provides a useful grid through which the reader can both look at the vast array of human stumbling blocks to intimacy and the author's helpful directions/suggestions for change." --Virginia Satir, author of Conjoint Family Therapy
* "This is a sane, sound, readable, and eminently useful book. It is a carefully guided sequence of exercises, guidelines, explanations, and case examples, all thoughtfully geared to facilitate the two-fold movement of befriending self and befriending others, particularly intimates." -- Ken Wilber, author of A Brief History of Everything.
* "Being Intimate is a practical and original approach for individuals and couples that could make all he difference between happiness and painful separation." -- Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence
*Being Intimate is a clear and practical guide to the realization and communication or authentic feelings, and thus an excellent pathway toward lasting intimacy and love." --George Leonard, author of Education and Ecstasy
* John and Kris's book is a fine blend of the tools of modern psychotherapy and spiritual understanding. It will be helpful to those who wish to learn about these paths of growth." --Jack Kornfield, author of A Path with Heart, and After the Ecstasy, the Laundry