John Amodeo

Individual and Couples Therapy (San Rafael and Sebastopol Area)

 

(707) 829-8948

johnamodeo@aol.com

  

I work with individuals and couples who want to deepen the connection with themselves and develop more satisfying, engaging relationships with others.  We will create a safe place to unravel stuck places, move toward building or repairing trust, and deal with life transitions.

   

Authenticity is a key to trusting, intimate relationships, but first we must be willing to look within in an honest, sincere, and gentle way. Depending on your needs and wants, I will help you explore the following:

  

•       Identify your authentic feelings and longings.
  
•       Learn to communicate your feelings, longings, and boundaries in a caring, respectful way -- without distancing                              people  through  blame, defensiveness, or criticism.
  
•       Deal with hurt and broken trust in a way that can lead to repair and renewal.
  
•       Heal from loss, rejection, and betrayal -- and keep your heart open for new love.
  
•       Replace escalating cycles of attacking and withdrawing by learning to communicate genuine feelings and  longings                    that underlie toxic anger and criticism; differentiate healthy anger from destructive anger.   
  
•       Learn self-soothing skills to develop inner resources; cultivate the awareness and inner strength to be  yourself                          and differentiate your needs and wants from what others want from you.
            
•       Create a climate that invites people toward you, rather than pushes them away.
   
•        Identify and heal the subtle, toxic  shame that may be holding you back.
               
•        Develop relationship skills to create a climate for enduring love, trust, and intimacy.
             
•        Embrace necessary sorrow when dealing with grief and loss rather than perpetuate unnecessary suffering.
              
•        Discover the hidden wisdom in your feelings; befriend your feelings and longings without becoming lost in them.
             
•        Communicate with your authentic, empowered voice without overpowering others.
             
•        Connect with your experience in a bodily felt way, rather than trying to figure everything out in your head; honor                       your spirituality without bypassing feelings.