John Amodeo

" Dancing With Fire  is wise, integrated, life affirming, and practical. John invites us and accompanies us to discover a fully human, loving, spiritual maturity. "

-- Jack Kornfield, PhD, best-selling author of A Path With Heart


"Dancing With Fire  brilliantly bridges the chasm between the stillness of meditation and the fierce passion and challenge of intimate relationships. John Amodeo heals the apparent rift, showing us how these are ultimately one and the same path."

-- Peter A. Levine PhD, best-selling author of Waking the Tiger


"A fresh and lucid voice in our emerging Western spirituality, John Amodeo offers a powerful synthesis of Buddhist teachings with attachment theory and the best of Western psychological understanding. Particularly compelling and promising is the weaving of Focusing, a body-oriented psychotherapy developed by Eugene Gendlin, with mindfulness meditation. Through this, and deep insights into the nature of relationships, Dancing with Fire gives us invaluable guidance in cultivating true intimacy with our lives."

-- Tara Brach, PhD, best-selling author of Radical Acceptance


"John Amodeo opens a new door into great truths of Buddhism and what they mean for our western world. He links meditation, mindfulness, humanistic psychology and the science of human bonding into a coherent whole. This book is a great contribution and a must read for every intelligent person who aspires to live as an awake and vibrant human being."

-- Dr. Sue  Johnson, author of Hold Me Tight


"With heartfelt kindness and down-to-earth usefulness, this book shows how to bring together lofty spiritual wisdom and juicy human passions. Drawing on his deep experience as a therapist and meditator, Dr. Amodeo has given us one of those rare books that actually bridges left and right brain, west and east, flesh and spirit - and self and other. "

-- Rick Hanson, PhD, best-selling author of Buddha's Brain


"Profoundly wise and beautifully written, this book is for anyone who ever wondered how to reconcile the spiritual journey with the paths of self-healing and intimacy with others.  A gifted writer at the top of his form, John Amodeo's book is not just about authenticity and connection, it actually offers those experiences as one reads. A life-changing book."

-- Ann Weiser Cornell, PhD, author of The Power of Focusing


"With masterful, lucid simplicity, Dancing with Fire  gives us a vision of how to make a fervent quest for spiritual freedom dovetail with an equally ardent search for love and intimate connection. Amodeo has created a founding treatise for the new, embodied wholeness so many of us yearn to find today. Yet reading it doesn't feel like listening to a sage give a lecture; it feels like you're having a conversation with a trusted friend."

-- Saniel Bonder, founder of Waking Down in Mutuality, author, Healing the Spirit/Matter Split


"Seekers of the sacred will find within these pages no ordinary wedding of East and West. Instead, John Amodeo invites us to reconcile the split between our worldly desire for intimacy and pleasure with our yearning for a robust spiritual life. His own tender voice seeps through each page--guiding us like a beacon of light toward a deeper, juicier connection with ourselves and each other, inspiring a passionate spirituality. John's best book yet!"

-- Maggie Kline, MFT,  co-author of Trauma through a Child's Eyes 


"Liberation and awakening are about being fully human. Spiritual awakening, personal growth, fullness of relating, learning to be a more healing presence for others, fulfillment through intimacy--these are all just different names for the same thing. The fact that a split has developed--many splits, in fact--between therapy, spirituality, and personal growth is a sign that something has gone wrong. There has to be a re-integration. This book is an important landmark on the path to such wholeness."

-- David Brazier,  leader of the Amida Order and author of The Feeling Buddha


"John Amodeo has written an extremely compelling and fascinating book and one that has been long overdue.  All too many people on a so-called 'spiritual path' are actually looking for more subtle and effective ways of short-circuiting the pain that is inherent in life. He clearly illuminates the lack of any contradiction between practicing mindful living and creating intimacy in one's relationships. His distinction between the extinguishing of desires and attachments and working skillfully with them is incredibly important and offers a clear path toward living life with engagement and open-heartedness."

-- Charlie Bloom, co-author of 101 Things I Wish I knew When I Got Married


"We owe John Amodeo a debt of gratitude for providing all of us with valuable insights on the connection between mindfulness and deepening intimacy in relationships. Whether you see yourself as nurtured by spiritual practice or psychological growth, read on and your heart will be touched, your mind opened. I highly recommend this fine book as an important guide for all those who seek genuine happiness and greater awareness."

--- Charles Garfield, PhD, author of Sometimes My Heart Goes Numb


"Amodeo brings what often remains lofty conversation into our kitchens and bedrooms. He shows how meditative awareness can help us develop more vital relationships while helping us embody spiritual realization more fully in everyday life. The writing style is warm and inviting, like having a conversation with a wise and gentle friend. This book is wonderful contribution to the emerging relationship yoga of the West."

-- Jett Psaris, PhD, co-author of Undefended Love


"A bold adaptation of Eastern spirituality to bring about loving, intimate connections."

-- Daniel B. Wile, PhD, author of After the Fight


"John Amodeo's brilliantly written, incisive, and heart-centered book provides a multi-layered in-depth journey demonstrating why we need both the spiritual teachings on mindfulness along with Western approaches, like Focusing and Emotionally Focused Therapy, to truly live an awakened, embodied life of sacred intimacy within oneself, relationships, and life itself!"

 -- Laury Rappaport, PhD,  author of Focusing-Oriented Art Therapy


"Brilliant, liberating, clarifying wisdom for meditators of every persuasion! One of the most helpful books ever written on spiritual practice."

-- Deborah Boyar, PhD, Senior Teacher, Waking Down in Mutuality


Being on a spiritual path allows us to connect with something larger than ourselves. Along the way, there is often a human tendency to bypass feelings and longings that are uncomfortable or difficult.  We move toward emotional and spiritual maturity as we uncover and welcome our deepest feelings and longings.  By bringing loving-kindness and a warm acceptance to whatever we're experiencing, we cultivate a spacious presence to our inner world, which makes us more available for meaningful connections with others. This award-winning book explores relationships as a spiritual path--a  vehicle for integrating our desire for intimacy, fulfillment, and joy with a robust spiritual life. 

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The Authentic Heart
An  Eightfold Path to Midlife Love
 At midlife and beyond, we hold the extraordinary potential to become more fully awake and alive in our relationships than ever before. The author outlines the core, necessary ingredients for creating mature, loving relationships, helping people of any age to develop skills and resources to build satisfying partnerships and friendships.  
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Dancing with Fire
A Mindful Way to Loving Relationships
Love & Betrayal
Broken Trust in Intimate Relationships
A betrayal is one of life's most painful experiences. This book offers a compassionate guide to healing your wounded heart and moving forward in you life.  Whether you are recovering from a past or current betrayal, this book can be a comforting companion to help you understand what you're going through--and how to move forward.  There is gentle guidance to help you learn from the experience rather than get stuck in blame, rage, or depression, as well as an exploration of how to build trust in a current or future relationship.
"The best work I have seen on the authentic experience of the most difficult aspect of relationships."
--Arnold Mindell, PhD, author of Working with the Dreaming Body
"A book of profound insight and wisdom, written not just for those who have been betrayed, but for anyone who wants to build deeper, more trusting relationships."
--Susan Campbell, PhD, author of The Couples Journey
"The gift of John Amodeo's book is that it gently invites the reader to participate feelingly, not just intellectually. By experiencing and understanding betrayal from a new and deeper perspective, the reader can access paths of healing and growth that are profound."
--Arnold Katz, PhD, University of Washington
"A thoughtful, useful, readable book that sensitively addresses a topic touching all of our lives. This book helps us deal with the pain, loss, and disillusionment of betrayal in a way that can lead to a renewal of ourselves and our relationships."
--Aaron Kipnis, PhS, author of Knights Without Armor
"John Amodeo addresses the too-long-neglected matter of failed relationships. He looks at the challenges faced by men and women who want to live with more love and less fear. "
--Jean Liefloff, author of The Continuum Concept
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Praise for The Authentic Heart
"The Authentic Heart is a groundbreaking, insightful, warmly written book that I highly recommend to anyone wanting more loving, joyful relationships. John Amodeo is a thoughtful and heartfelt writer, who addresses with great clarity, wisdom, and practicality, the key steps that are necessary for building authentic, mature, loving connections - not only with others, but also with oneself."
--John Bradshaw,  best-selling author of H ealing the Shame that Binds You
"The Authentic Heart is a fresh commentary on mature and ripened love. It brings together a wealth of knowledge, insight, and clinical experience to show that the capacity for love is not diminished by age but can be enhanced by it as we grow in wisdom. This book is not only for the middle-aged, but for those, young and old, who want to enrich their intimate relationships."
--Peter A. Levine, Ph.D., best-selling author of Waking the Tiger
"The Authentic Heart offers practical, wise, and compassionate guidance for midlife love."
--Jack Kornfield, best-selling author of A Path with Heart
"Just what millions want to know--not only how to make love last, but how to make lasting love new again and again. This warm-hearted and clear-headed book is full of practical wisdom."
-- Gay Hendricks, Ph.D. and Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., best-selling authors of  Conscious Loving
"Full of warmth and wisdom, this book inspires us to let go of the illusions of youth, learn from the lessons life has taught us thus far and begin again with a renewed sense of humility and compassion."
--Susan Campbell, Ph.D., author of Getting Real
"The Authentic Heart makes a significant contribution to the literature on relationships."
--Patricia Evans, author of The Verbally Abusive Relationship
"By midlife, many people are discouraged and don't know how to begin or how to begin again. It is wonderful how John Amodeo has brought his heart to sharing so specifically and lovingly the path to this very special stage of love. The Authentic Heart is a gift of hope and encouragement."
--Daphne Rose Kingma, author of The Future of Love
"John Amodeo is a master guide for the relationship path. His knowledge and love pour through this book on every page. With the aid of this book's grounded wisdom, we can untangle the knots of our own making, and find our way clear in any relationship of significance, no matter how challenging it might be."
--Jacquelyn Small, author of Awakening in Time
"If you ever have a thought of wishing you were younger, run, don't walk, to pick up this book. Open to any page and you will find the life affirming wisdom that will allow you to celebrate yourself."
--Jordan Paul, Ph.D., co-author of Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You?
"The Authentic Heart is a beautifully written, hope-filled celebration of spiritually rich intimacy. If that's what you are seeking, you must read this book."
--Judith Sherven, Ph.D. & James Sniechowski, Ph.D., authors of The New Intimacy
"John Amodeo is a brilliant writer. With breathtaking clarity and simplicity, he makes the enduring truths of conscious relationships fully accessible to contemporary readers. His penetrating insights illuminate the path to deep love and intimacy."
--William Collinge, Ph.D., author of The American Holistic Health Association Complete Guide to Alternative Medicine
"John Amodeo is the most thoughtful writer on relationships that I know. I recommend this book to anyone seeking insight and solutions to relationship issues."
--Dr. Jim Dreaver, author The Way of Harmony
"If there is ever a Pulitzer Prize for a book about love, The Authentic Heart should win hands down. I have great admiration for John Amodeo's gentle, yet powerful, prose and lively writing style, and am delighted beyond words how often and beautifully he illuminates the significance of risking vulnerability and emotional honesty to achieve emotional intimacy. There are so many good examples and moving wisdom in this book. I thank him for expressing his incredibly wise experiences and insights, and I hope others appreciate the sharing of his gift as much as I do!"
--Ronald Brill, author of Emotional Honesty & Self-Acceptance: Education Strategies for Preventing Violence
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Praise for Love & Betrayal
Being Intimate
A Guide to Successful Relationships
Intimate relationships can be the most fulfilling part of our lives. But they are often fraught with difficulty. Romantic ideals can keep us hooked into unrealistic fantasies and derail our quest for authentic love. Also, we may find it difficult to know and express our more vulnerable feelings and longings, which may lead to disconnection. By attuning to our deepest feelings and wants and communicating them in a respectful way, we create a climate in which love and intimacy can flourish. Introducing the gentle, yet powerful process called "Focusing," developed by Dr. Eugene Gendlin, (described in detail), the authors show how we can develop connection and trust in our own felt experience, which leads to more fulfilling connections with others.

"This is a sane, sound, readable, and eminently useful book. It is a carefully guided sequence of exercises, guidelines, explanations, and case examples, all thoughtfully geared to facilitate the two-fold movement of befriending self and befriending others, particularly intimates." 

-- Ken Wilber, author of A Brief History of Everything


"Being Intimate is a practical and original approach for individuals and couples that could make all the difference between happiness and painful separation."
-- Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence


"John and Kris's book is a fine blend of the tools of modern psychotherapy and spiritual understanding. It will be helpful to those who wish to learn about these paths of growth."
--Jack Kornfield, author of  After the Ecstasy, the Laundry


"This book provides a useful grid through which the reader can both look at the vast array of human stumbling blocks to intimacy and the author's helpful directions/suggestions for change."
--Virginia Satir, author of Conjoint Family Therapy


*Being Intimate is a clear and practical guide to the realization and communication or authentic feelings, and thus an excellent pathway toward lasting intimacy and love."
--George Leonard, author of Education and Ecstasy


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Praise for Dancing with Fire